“Shame needs three thing to grow out of control in our lives: secrecy, silence, and judgement.” The Gifts of Imperfection, by Bene Brown

 

Our authentic lives, frees others. It enables them to let themselves off the hook, the one perfect hook they keep trying to hang from. It also lets us off the hook too. When we hide our true lives, because of shame and fear, we try in vain to live before others, instead of before God.

I live in smalltown U.S.A. By its sheer lack of size (and coziness), it also stretches the boundaries of those who live in it. We navigate relationships as carefully and gingerly as we can. There’s a good chance we’ll see each other standing in the checkout aisle or munching on oily chips from our loud, favorite Mexican restaurant.

I’d be honored if you’d join me over here for more on what I’ve learned about friendships, smalltowns, and starting over …..